REAL TALK: I can’t tell you how many times I believed I wasn’t meant for the (big) things others were doing – settling into this narrative that other people were smarter, more creative, more talented, more disciplined, more driven, and more capable. That other people were meant for more and I was here to believe in them and cheer them on.
Let me set you straight though: This did/does make me happy. My personality type is actually “The Advocate” INFJ – and according to Myers Briggs: “People with this personality type tend to see helping others as their purpose in life. Their real passion is to get to the heart of the issue so that people need not be rescued at all.” Sorry enneagram lovers, but this is WAY too specific and less restrictive, and more motivating of a description for me.
I love supporting others and helping them achieve their goals! 🤩 So, I guess one can say I may have benefitted from some form of the “comparison plague.” Perhaps “to want what they got” or “to dream big” could have mobilized me in my developmental years. But I digress.
I’ve put too much focus on building up other people and accepting “my fate” that I have caused extreme detriments to my own confidence along the way. No bullshit, I started to adapt the mindset that other people’s accomplishments were enough to satisfy me in my journey. And please don’t misconstrue what I’m saying to be martyrdom.
BECAUSE I GAVE UP. I gave up the notion that I could control my destiny because other people’s were more important. Sounding meta messed up?
During a performance review at work, my manager bluntly stated: “Where is your confidence?”
And, honestly, there’s probably not enough time to explain lol
But there is time to say, I’ve been working on it. I need to inspire others in ways they inspire me. To embrace the hurdles that I’ve so easily steered clear of. Why wait for an unexpected challenge to light the fire under my ass?
Let’s do things that make us scared. Because what a privilege it is to be scared of our OWN potential.
Whose with me? Is the heart of the issue really in our own limiting beliefs?
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ENCOURAGE YOURSELF AS YOU ENCOURAGE OTHERS… I’m here cheering you on 😉
Kirsing 